True happiness is a rare commodity that most of us are continuously looking for. Why is happiness such an elusive thing? Is it because it can’t simply be achieved? Or is it because we are all looking in the wrong place?
If you pause for a moment to give it a thought, it is very easy to see that somehow we have all been missing the point. To me the answer is obvious is; if the whole of the humanity has been trying to find something throughout the history and failing to acquire it then something must be very wrong about the concept we have of happiness.
One school of thought is: Happiness is what you feel when what you want to happen happens. And if this definition of happiness is correct then we can conclude that unhappiness is what we feel when what we want to happen does not happen.
One thing we should realize is that that for most of our problems, the solutions are often simple and obvious enough if we understand the problem clearly. Even more surprising is the fact that the solutions mostly lie in the problem itself. This is also true in the case of happiness.
SO let’s look at the previous definition of happiness. The main keyword in the definition is “want” and that is where the trouble begins. Every moment of our lives we keep on wanting something or the other. If we had to write all of our wants throughout our lives on paper we would surely run out. People focus on desire, as soon as one desire is fulfilled another takes its place. So what, should we then live our lives free from desire, I think not. To me life would then be dull and meaningless. OR should we just try and avoid UNhappiness, again NO, your focus will then be on unhappiness and that’s exactly what will manifest.
The solution is rather to create Happiness. James Openheim said “The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet. ” And that is so true.
It does not matter how long we have been looking in the wrong place or misunderstood the concept of happiness. If we go into a darkened room and turn on the light, it doesn’t matter if the room has been dark for a day, a week, or ten thousand years — we turn on the light and it is illuminated. Once we change our mindset from happiness being something we want to something we create, the light has been turned on.